There are however several other signs that most women ignore.
1.He begins buying you gifts—lots of gifts. These I term as "guilt gifts". He does this because he feels guilty about betraying you, and showering you with presents makes him feel better. This however pertains to men who are new to cheating and not naturals. The attention will soon diminish even as the affair continues.
2.He’s not present. Even when he’s physically present, he’s off in his own world, he’s not really there with you; could be spending extra time on his phone whatsapping or on his laptop.
3.He takes a lot more trouble over his appearance unlike before. That could mean dressing better than before, or a renewed infatuation with the gym.
4.Sudden habit of showering before coming to bed when you know he is not used to doing that. This signifies an attempt to avoid detection of the perfume of a lover, could be another clue.
5.All of a sudden, his working days are longer, maybe he even has to travel, so he’s away from you overnight, for a couple of days at a time, or even longer. Especially when this is coupled with some of the other signs, these are clear pointers that he probably is playing away.
6.Sudden, increased lifestyle expenses (drinks, meals, hotels) that didn't include you. How do you notice? Check his recent bank transactions. If you don't have access, check his pockets when doing the laundry properly, you might be lucky to find receipts of the last hotel he paid or that gold necklace he last bought.
7.His behavior is causing a gut feeling in you that something isn't right. If this happens, pay attention to your instincts. Ignoring them means you want to blind yourself to the truth. You know his habits, routines and attitudes better than anybody, so be suspicious when these things change.
8.He frequently picks fights with you. Doing this gives him reason to get mad and storm out of the house and thus the opportunity to meet a lover.
9.He constantly talks about your relationship ending. He says things like, "What would you do if we ever break up or "If anything ever happened to us, I would always love you like a friend." In general, he seems very negative about your relationship. Your partner makes these statements because he has a lover to fall back on if your relationship ends. If your partner repeats these kinds of statements often, be suspicious.
10.He seems very upbeat and excited when leaving your presence but acts somber, depressed or moody when around you. Be suspicious.
These are just signs. Don't go about laying allegations at the sight of any one of these.
However if your partner exhibits all these traits then my sister you are in trouble. As I said earlier trust your instincts, you know your man better than anybody else. Sit him down, ask the question that every cheater fears to hear. "ARE YOU CHEATING?"
Hope he denies it.
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