Well I’ve been there my brothers. Breakups suck.
Surely you can carry on with your life, do a few new girls, go out with your friends and try to forget about her.
OR you can use these tips.
Sit back relax.... Let's get that girl back.
Scenario 1: STRAIGHT AFTER A BREAKUP
Know why she left you – Try to understand why you were dumped my brother. Try tracing the dots the point of your break-up. Was she constantly talking about something you kept doing that she really hated.? This is a really important step.
Don't try making any form of contact for about a month you don't want to come across as desperate, it's not going to help.
Get back in touch with her either with a text, Say something friendly. Something like “Hey, guess what? finally found the purse you left ....(Yay to me) maybe we could meet up so you could have it. (Wink) No kisses or desperate talk promise".
Schedule a day to meet, the meetings should be in the afternoon- over lunch, so she doesn't have the slightest thought you are just sexually interested.
Keep the conversations light, friendly and nothing to do with the break up. Make it look like you’re really happy and moving on with your life.
The key to remember here is that you’re laying down the important groundwork with the casual meetups.
Watch out for clues, tell her you missed her, immediately she drops the "I really missed you too" line that's your greenlight.(Wink).
In all this however check out to make sure she hasn't already moved on with a new guy .
Scenario 2: WHEN SHE HAS A NEW GUY
This is probably the worst of the bunch, but not impossible to come back from.
It’s time for you to go into beast mode my brother.
Pimp your Facebook and Instagram pages. It’s crucial that she sees the guy you want to be seen as… which is a confident, independent, happy and outgoing guy. Upload pictures of you partying with other pretty girls, smiling, doing things that you NEVER did whilst in your relationship with your ex.
Get in touch – Go back to “situation 1” and follow all the steps all over.
Scenario 3: WHEN SHE DOESN’T WANT YOU BACK (OR EVEN HATES YOU)
This is a tricky one my brother. Did you cheat on her with her bestie? Did she blame you for wasting years of her life without you even proposing to her? Think man!
Text an apology for what you did wrong and say to her that you respect her wishes, also that you truly wish that she finds a guy that will make her happy.
Leave it a few weeks – If you didn’t get a reply, that’s fine… wait a few weeks more and try again. If you did, then that’s awesome, keep the communication flowing.
Follow everything from the first and second situation, until she takes you back.
Persistence is key my brother but it will be better served finding something more worthwhile to do with your life. Just get a job already.
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